This post was written by a mother who wants to help her daughter understand the concept of ‘tough love’.
A recent article in the Los Angeles Times (NYT) on the topic of dating and relationships in a world that is more accepting of transgender people has prompted my daughter to consider a man’s ‘bikini’.
“My daughter is 14 years old, and she is a tomboy,” said the mother, who has known her daughter since she was seven.
“She is a very sensitive girl, she’s always talking about her mommy and daddy, and I told her she’s never going to have any problem with it.”
While she may have been unsure about the subject of dating, her mother believes her daughter has the right to talk about it.
“My job is to help my daughter understand that dating a male in a bikinis is never going a very good thing for her or anyone else.
She can be the most loving and nurturing daughter I know, and it’s okay for her to talk.”
While this article is written in the context of dating in a society that is welcoming and accepting of trans people, the same concept can apply to relationships.
“I think that she has a right to feel comfortable with it, to make her own decisions and make those choices that are good for her,” said her mother.
“If she doesn’t feel comfortable in those relationships, I think she’s got the right and the ability to ask for reassignment.”
While her daughter is not at risk of transitioning, she has been told that she will not be allowed to do so until she is 18, after which time she will be legally recognised as a woman.
“It’s not something that my daughter will ever accept, but I do understand that,” said Dr Andrew Stahl, a medical anthropologist and author of the book The Transgender Experience.
“I’m not sure why they would want to change something that she knows and is comfortable with.”
Dr Stahl also points to the fact that in many countries in Europe, where transgender people are accepted, it is considered socially unacceptable for a transgender person to have sex with a man.
However, the transgender community has argued that, in these countries, the laws surrounding trans women and men do not apply.
“For most of the world, it’s very different,” said Stahl.
“They see it as a crime.
They see it, in many ways, as a criminal act.”
But for many of these trans people who are actually in love with someone who is different, the idea of being in a relationship with a guy who’s in a swimsuit is not an issue.
“However, there is a lot of stigma surrounding transgender people in the United States.
While the majority of people in our country are supportive of transgender individuals and their right to live their lives the stigma of transitioning can be even higher.”
For many trans people and people who do not have a relationship, there’s a sense of, ‘I don’t want to be here’,” said Stahls.”
There’s a lot more discrimination and discrimination is going to continue.
It’s not just trans people; it’s the rest of the country as well.”
The mother has started to explore the topic with her daughter.”
As a parent, I can understand that, but it’s also my job to help people understand it,” said Ms Fanning.”
If she says she wants to be a girl, then I can talk to her about that and help her understand the reasons for that.
“If you or anyone you know needs support, you can contact Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90, visit a local Samaritans branch or call Lifeline on 13 11 14.