When you’re really into something, you’ll find a way to share it
Posted On July 19, 2021
“You’re really good at sharing things,” says Dan Dickson, a professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania and author of “The Power of Habit.”
“It’s so natural that you would find a simple way to express yourself.
And that’s why people are so comfortable sharing things with friends.”
Dickson says he’s been reading about habit for years and has noticed that it is very difficult to learn.
“It seems to be a way of keeping secrets,” he says.
“And I think that’s the problem.”
Diaz thinks it’s because people are afraid to share information with friends, especially about their deepest desires.
“We’re afraid to have a secret,” he explains.
“That’s a big reason why people have an aversion to sharing information with others.”
And the problem is not new.
We all have a fear of sharing information in social situations.
“In social situations, we’re often afraid to reveal our deepest secrets because we’re afraid that people will find out,” Dickson says.
In fact, a 2011 study found that sharing information about someone’s private life with a stranger can result in increased distrust in that person.
“If someone has an affair with someone, for example, that person may have a higher risk of feeling judged and treated unfairly,” Dinson says.
And so, in order to keep secrets from your closest friends, you need to keep them from others.